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The importance of correcting self-talk to change personality as a
therpeutic method was first demonstrated by Dr. Albert Ellis in
his Rational Emotive Therapy in 1955. Now it is called Rational
Emotive Behavioral Therapy. He called self-talk as 'Internal
Verbalization'.
He also demolished the widely held Freudian theory that just by
hypnotically recollecting traumatizing experiences one can cure
behavioral disorders. He developed a successful positive mental
correctional method which used the rational elements of a person's
emotional framework. Hence the name Rational Emotive Behavioral
Therapy.
You will be surprised to learn that the inspiration for this
elegant method was the Greek stoic philosopher Epictetus, who said
"Poeple are not affected by events themselves, but by their
interpretation of the events".
If you look at it closely, you will understand that it is nothing
but what Kaniyan PoonkunRan said:
"தீதும் நன்றும் பிறர் தர வாரா".
Food for thought, eh?
anbudan
Madhurabarathi
On Sat, 09 Mar 2002 jay bee wrote :
>Dear Friends,
>
>Here is a very useful article on self-talk.
>
>Regards
>
>JayBee
>
>-----------------Forwarded----------------
>
>
>Self dialogue must be positive
>By Joe Caruso
>
>It's important to our success that we realize all
>interpersonal communication is a form of negotiation.
>
>In fact, I'd like to suggest that if you don't think
>you're
>in a negotiation, you're probably losing. You see, we
>are
>constantly in a negotiation -- if not with others,
>then with
>ourselves.
>
>WE ARE constantly in dialogue with ourselves. Our
>"self-
>talk" can vary from loving, supportive messages to
>negative
>or foreboding messages.
>
>It's important to keep in mind that this is not a
>monologue.
>This is very definitely a dialogue. We are at once
>doing the
>talking and the listening, the questioning and the
>answering.
>
>Whether we are winning or losing, our "intrapersonal"
>negotiation at any point in time is based on whether
>our
>self-talk is positively or negatively affecting our
>lives.
>
>When we talk to ourselves, what we say is a direct
>reflection of our attitude. If we love ourselves, we
>say
>positive and supportive things that edify our efforts
>to be
>successful and happy.
>
>THIS POSITIVE and supportive self-talk can consist of
>telling ourselves to stay focused on the things we can
>control. It can be a confirmation of our faith, or it
>can
>simply be a retelling of past successes and small
>victories.
>
>The result of self-talk will manifest itself in your
>life by
>coloring your perspectives and feeding -- or stealing
> from
>-- your creativity and energy. It will also affect
>your
>relationships either positively or negatively.
>
>Let's say, for example, you just got a very bad
>haircut. If
>you tell yourself how bad you look and continue to
>feed your
>insecurities, you will be less engaging, less
>attractive and
>less outgoing as you interact with people during the
>day.
>
>HOWEVER, you can counter these thoughts with the fact
>that:
>
>a) Most people probably won't even notice you got a
>bad
>haircut; b) even bad haircuts soon grow out to a point
>where
>they can be fixed or don't look so bad; c) everyone
>has had
>a bad haircut at some point in his or her life; or, d)
>beauty is subjective.
>
>In fact, talking about your haircut may be a great
>device to
>get others to share their "worst haircut experience"
>with
>you for fun.
